Sometimes I find I see things in such a simple way, and I realise people around me may view me as very naive, not taking things seriously, not understanding how complicated things really are. Sometimes I just don’t see the problem!
I am uncertain if this is a result of my yoga and meditation practice, as I remember also having this view of life in my twenties before starting practicing these disciplines. Yes, this sort of easy way of seeing life got completely lost with responsibility for young children and the wellbeing of the whole family. I felt more and more trapped in my situation. I cannot blame anyone for how I felt or saw things at that time – I understand now that my own thoughts got in the way, and what happened was that I completely lost my self. Doing and doing for others, all the time. That is how I viewed my reality.
With meditation, you learn that thoughts are not facts, they are actually just thoughts! This implies you can take your thoughts less seriously, realising that what happens in your head is not all there is.
Please note that in no way do I want to undermine challenging situations people find themselves in. I can relate to what they are going through. I did spend several years feeling completely destroyed, crying a lot. I know how life can feel just too hard and that sometimes you can’t see the finish line of your own suffering. However, it is good to realise there is a way out of trapped or turbulent times. I believe part of getting there is to nurture yourself. Do what is good for you. Connect with your body again through activities such as yoga. Connect with nature by going on walks, feeling the air in your face. Connect with your self by spending some time sitting in stillness. Nurturing yourself does not mean that you are letting down your family or your children, instead know that they are better off with you feeling good about yourself! You will have more to give out if you take time to care for only you.
I am mentioning this as I find there are more and more people around me struggling with their life situation. So – care for you (this is an order! ☺️). Put your wellbeing as main priority, while staying kind to the people around you.
Life is so precious, so live and enjoy life now. Big hug! X