I am probably really late at realising this but I am so amazed about how incredible women are. It struck me this summer, in particular.
By the way I am all for men. In my late teens I went to a talk by the British feminist author Fay Weldon. She was going to talk about women and feminism. She started by saying she was married to a man and had sons and that she loved men. I remember loving that she said that.
Okay, so back to women and my experience from this summer: During the summer months I spoke to several women on the beach who were older than me. Most of them were on holiday here with their husbands. The women I met were in really good health and their husbands in, how shall I put it, overall weak health?
Why is that? The women were going back and forth to the beach, organising things at night, planning the meals, and while out swimming they were having great conversations about life, culture and everyday events. Often in two languages at the same time. Their husbands? They (except for a few) were either at home because it was too hot, or they weren’t well, or perhaps they were just not in the mood.
Since I noticed this pattern not only with one woman but with several of them, it hit me how things might turn out as we get older, and how women seem to keep their health (maybe because they have to) compared to what men do. I know I am generalising here but do you see what I mean?
I have actually also noticed a similar pattern among friends my age. It is not uncommon to hear that my friend is well while her husband is sick.
This is my personal observation. But come on guys (men) how about doing something about it? I know it is a cliche but I will say it anyway: You can loose a lot in your life and still be fine, but if you loose your health, well that’s another story.
Wow, amazing women, give yourselves a tap on the back. I am in awe of your amazingness and resilience and strength.
Thank you for your presence. Wishing you well! Annette X